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Shoreham, New York—small, pastoral, surrounded by pine barrens and farmland. Our home sat across from a wooded trail. Sea glass under my feet. Sugary sand in my toes. Water lapping the shore.
Before the world shattered, it was peaceful. Nobody locked their doors. Dogs roamed free. We rode bikes for hours in any direction. No phones. No plans. Just space.
After Paco died, Mom was suddenly alone with a toddler, a preschooler, and no roadmap. She later told me, "When you have two small faces looking at you for reassurance, you have no choice but to move forward."
That fall, she enrolled at Stony Brook to pursue a PhD in anthropology. With Paco's small death benefit, social security, and a graduate stipend, we barely made it. But she made it work. She rented out a room. Found a way forward.
But there's a difference between loving a child and knowing how to hold their grief.
When I asked, "Mommy, can we go to the store and buy a new daddy?" she didn't have an answer.
The universe did.
Nearly a year later, she met Barry. We called him Bear. I was five. And I was ready for anything that felt like a father.
He was powerful. Forearms like steel cables. A baritone voice that could shake the floor when angered. He grew up in the Catskills, the son of a manic-depressive builder who spent years in a psychiatric hospital. They weren't close. Not until much later.
As a young man, Bear had spent a summer alone in a fire tower in Utah, scanning for smoke. Later, he flew air-sea rescue helicopters off the coast of Vietnam, pulling downed pilots from the South China Sea. When we met him, he was managing helicopter rescue for Grumman Aerospace.
He watched over my sister and me while Mom did her fieldwork in Nova Scotia—studying the Mi'kmaq, an Indigenous tribe whose culture she was researching. By the time I was in high school, Mom was only home on weekends and holidays. Bear became our caregiver.
But not our emotional compass.
He was a man of accountability, discipline, machines. And when you're a sensitive, angry boy, accountability without tenderness feels like judgement.
I started to unravel.
Long bike rides turned into long disappearances.
By seventh grade, I was experimenting with weed and alcohol.
Not because I wanted to escape. Because I wanted to feel alive.
The rush, sudden and electric, cut through the flat gray world I was stuck in. That feeling—sharp, charged, undeniable—was better than feeling nothing. And once it found a way in, it didn’t stop.
And the sweet bell that had rung when I let go of that tiny propeller was still echoing somewhere inside me.
But the sound had somehow become distorted.
Twisted. Shrill. Electric.
Destructive.
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